If you haven’t realized, many black men today are no longer on the scout for black women. I’m sure you’ve heard a black man say “I’m getting a white woman,” or “I don’t date black women.” As sad as these statements sound coming from men of our own race its truly how the majority of black men are currently feeling. We’ve lately been referred to as unattractive, drama-prone, ignorant, ghetto and many other adjectives that would leave any black woman feeling less than worthy of a black man or any man for that matter, but this is most definitely not the case. Ladies, its not about our looks or the texture of our hair, its the attitude that we use to represent ourselves that makes us ugly.

As a race of women we need to be more aware of the persona we’re projecting on a daily basis ourselves that makes us ugly. We must stop rolling our eyes, snapping our necks and using the excuse of being a “woman,” to justify putting our hands on a man.  Breaking the stereotype of being a typical black woman is key. Newsflash, black men have evolved just as we have and they no longer want to deal with the Laquita Jackson attitude when they can easily have a happy and healthy relationship with Cindy Matthews. By no means am I asking black women to dumb it down, but instead to be more conscious, respectable, and a lot less urban. Rather than using your facial expressions, hand gestures and raging attitude instead use your words and intelligence to blow someone out of the water. Prove everyone wrong and dismiss the stereotype of the Sista Girl Neck because not all black woman are guilty of this. We’re actually not even the only race that does this action but we are the most common to bring it out.

None of this is to be misconstrued as black men disliking black women, they do indeed love us, just minus the attitude and drama. Focus on pleasing your man rather than finding a way to win the battle or embarrass him. In certain cases and situations its okay to submit, we are after all women. Let’s raise a new generation of women with new values, morals and more love in their hearts rather than anger and attitude. Put the Sista Girl Neck in your pocket, only use when absolutely necessary.

–badbadJONES

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